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The Salmon: A Swinger Swimming Against The Stream
What the hell am I doing??? Not the first time I have asked myself the question, and looking ahead almost certainly not the last. I paused for a moment, staring at the swing club door alone, kind of...
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First Time or Last Time – First Swing Experience
First time or last time You always remember your first: first car, first love, first sex and first time to the club. My love and I signed up to a club about 45 minutes away, close enough to get to...
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A World Without Brakes: Swinger Beginnings
On one of the Life on the Swingset podcasts, Cooper mentions non-monogamy as a paradigm shift; a different perspective as to how you view yourself, and the rest of the world; a non-binary neither 0 nor...
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Disappointment, Impermanence and the Morning Run
I love Halloween, I love the somewhat naughty other worldly feel the holiday gives us, the license to do or be things that we cannot do in our day to day vanilla lives. In that sense swingers get...
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Going Solo: Part 1
In one of my previous posts, I wrote about how my love accompanied me to my first night at the club. We arrived much too early for any playtime and left before the action really got started. The...
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Going Solo: Part 2
Trying to swing as a married single male, may be one of the most difficult, most non-intuitive, most un-meish things I have ever attempted. I have not been a sociable person by nature. I have been much...
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Health and Swinging
I think it would be safe to say that many people who immediately before or just after beginning the swinging lifestyle, start an exercise program. I like to think that the choice to get in shape is...
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Swinger Beginnings: Into the Deep End of the Pool – Pt 1
For all of you the have been following my forays in swinging as a married single, you will probably note I have not been entirely successful. Some of that is due to misplaced expectations and outright...
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Swinger Beginnings: Into The Deep End of the Pool – Pt 2
Part one told of my return to the club on bisex night and my first mmf three-way. The adventure continues… After heading back to the bar, I admitted to myself I did not know all the things I would need...
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Swinger Beginnings: Learning with Ropes
“Ropes” (a good friend and professional dom) and I started attending the club together as a sort of compromise, she wanted to see what it was all about; while I saw a possibility she might want to play...
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Swinger Beginnings: Learning to Fly
About a week after the playing at the deep end of the pool (see previous posts) I made a reservation at my club for the next Insatiable night (where single males are accepted). I was now listening to...
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Swinger Beginnings: Wishes and Oak Leaves
When I was much younger, younger then my own children are currently, let’s call it a tween, though there was no name for such a category at the time, my eyes would look upwards toward the changing fall...
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Bunches of Munches
In Going Solo I chronicled my first attempt at swinging single. In Learning to Fly I returned to my club, with some lessons learned. Now I sit with a few hours before embarking on the third...
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A Strip Club: Walking After You Can Fly
Anyone who has been following my adventures in non-monogamy may know that before starting down this path, my life has been a bit sheltered. After six months of club nights, parties and meets, I find...
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Maintaining the Momentum in Swinging
Choosing to begin swinging was a life changing event, for me it gave me a new perspective on myself my love and my family. It gave me the courage to put down drinking, and gave me reasons to live that...
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Swinging Life Lessons: Treading Water
One of the great ironies of my life is that living as I do so near the ocean, in addition to plenty of lakes and ponds, I do not swim well. I was a skinny teen, and as a result was much more likely to...
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The Perils of Poly
At one of the meet and greet parties I started branching out into over the winter, I attended a party where I met this wonderful woman. There was more than just a click for me at any rate, she was...
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Swinging Expectations: Getting to Carnegie Hall
If you have read my previous blogs, if there is an aphorism or phrase that neatly sums up my experience in the swinging world it would probably be “What the hell am I doing?” Even with over 150...
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Swinger Party Surprise: Revenge of the nerds
I will admit something to my readers. I am a nerd. It seems a little less painful writing here on a sheet of paper for all to see, but there is a long history associated with it of seeking acceptance...
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Out of the Frying Pansexual
Life is an amazing adventure. Since beginning this journey, I have found myself in situations and experiences I have only dreamed of, and even a few I couldn’t conceive of at all. What surprises me...
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Erectile Dysfunction: A Bridge Too Far…
I have been swinging for almost a year now. From very humble beginnings, I have tried to preserve my thoughts and actions in this corner of the internet. There have been many smiles, a couple of laughs...
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Butterflies – A Playparty Surprise Reaction
The party was over an hour away. I had been to this one before, great people, low pressure, usually a really fun night out. The party had a comic book super hero theme, something I had nothing...
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Poly Speed Dating for Fun and Profit
Ok, I had first heard of the term speed dating from my Swingset hosts’ description of activities at Desire. I suppose the term is somewhat self-explanatory, but for those of us who haven’t tried it,...
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Come out, Come out, Wherever You Are
It is my favorite time of the year. The days are as long as they are going to get, and the early mornings are cool and beautiful for running. The evenings are long and stretch past my occasional...
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Zebra Stripes: Combining Swinging and Polyamory
When we last left our hero…I had met the wondrous, polyamorous person nicknamed on these pages as Wisdom. After the party events described in Butterflies, Wisdom and I became friends, then lovers, and...
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Erectile Dysfunction: The Needle and the Damage Done
Five months ago I completed a very personal piece for my Swingset readers. Unlike my sexy times, or internal emotional issues that I had to overcome, in A Bridge Too Far I wrote about Erectile...
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Introducing Swing to Poly: Come to the Dark Side…We Have Cookies!
During my speed dating event, I was introduced to the poly community in a nearby metropolitan area. I would like to say the people I met there developed into long lasting friendships… I’d like to say...
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Who Do You Want To Be Today?: Games People Play
“We are game playing fun having creatures.We are the otters of the universe.” So reads Richard Bach’s Illusions. I believe this to be true, and I have thoroughly enjoyed finding sexy playtime for me...
View ArticleRoses by Any Other Names: Games People Play Pt 2
“Foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds.” Emerson Some months ago my role play adventure at the swing/sex club that Wisdom and I enjoy ended with the promise of a part 2, her fantasy won...
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One of the challenges of being part of a sexual subculture in a society that sometimes doesn’t really approve of sex is in finding ways to reach out to other people. This is difficult in a vanilla...
View ArticleDivorce Crater
I have no cutesy title for this chapter of the blog, no explanabrag, no clever reference to a recent podcast. I am faced with white paper (ok white screen) with a few words and lots to say. I am...
View ArticleWhen You’re Happy and You Know It
So… it’s been a while. My previous (and only) entry for the past year was the divorce crater, hardly a feel good article. One I felt I needed to write at three different points in the grieving process...
View ArticleGames People Play Part 3: The Toy Box
Having recently listened to LOTSS recent podcast 278 accessorizing our sex lives, Wisdom and I wanted to add our two cents (usually much more) to the accessory discussion. Toys are one of the ways we...
View ArticleSwinging While Sober: The lifestyle and alcohol
It is no secret that before I entered the lifestyle I drank too much. In truth, I was consuming a 1.75 liter bottle rum in about 2-3 days, every day for well over a year. I was trying to drink myself...
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